Tania's Story

Tania Wynn

For the two years leading up to her husband Nigel’s Alzheimer’s disease diagnosis, Tania had thought there was something either wrong with her or with their relationship. So getting a definite diagnosis changed everything, and suddenly the changes in Nigel’s behaviour started to make more sense.

One thing Tania finds quite hard is that his illness does not appear obvious to many other people. This is because when they have limited contact with him he can appear relatively normal – he can still talk “small talk” and hold simple conversations. It is only when you are constantly with the person that all the everyday things they cannot do become obvious.

Nigel’s diagnosis was now some years ago, and since then his illness has steadily progressed. Tania openly talks about the things he can no longer do – apart from not remembering things, he cannot follow her easily when they are out, he can’t dress himself easily, and he has trouble feeding himself.

Years ago Nigel had been a successful stockbroker in his own business, but the early diagnosis put an end to his career and the work he loved. Tania describes her husband’s transition, and explains how his executive functioning has gone as if it has holes in it. With three grown-up children, she also talks about the impact on the family, in particular the inability to plan for the future and to have aspirations and dreams.

If you are in a similar situation with a partner who you suspect has Alzheimer’s disease, Tania explains where you can go for support and advice.

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